What it Takes to Hold Onto a Marriage in 2014?

With divorce statistics as high as 50 percent, and 90 percent when having children with special needs, what does it take to hold onto a marriage in today’s society? When you are newly married you are considered to be in the honeymoon stage. You’re filled with love and passion and everything seems right with the world. It may be like that for weeks, months and even years, until one day you have your first child, or whatever else, and suddenly realize the honeymoon has ended.
Welcome to the real world. You probably have a kid now and a husband who likely acts like a second kid. So, where do you fit into all this? If you don’t have friends in the same boat it can be quiet lonely, family may or may not be in the picture. If that’s case how do you maintain it all?
Communication and lack there of is not a good sign in any relationship. Coming from a very communicative family, I have to voice everything, but voicing everything to your husband isn’t necessarily a good thing. Keep the pathways open but don’t bombard with everything that happens throughout your life leave that for your friends, family, or counselor.
Intimacy is a big part of having a connection within your marriage. If it isn’t there then you can’t bond with another the way we are meant to bond. Though there are other ways of bonding holding hands, kissing, and having every day conversation, keeping the spark alive in your marriage is a must. Most marriages end because of no sex with in the marriage.
Having children is not a good way to hold onto a marriage that is in trouble. Some people end up pregnant just to hold onto what they have, and once having a child some stay in a relationship just for the children. It is better for the child to have two healthy parents, married or divorced, then to have two parents in an unhappy marriage.
Independence is key as well. When married, having a life outside of that marriage counts. Having a job you love, getting your hair done, nails, or just simply going out to eat by yourself is important. It not only gives you a sense of independence, but it keeps you going, it gives you space between you and your loved one.
Understand that we live in a different world today then the world are grandparents grew up in. Put your technology down for one second makes a difference, it actually leaves time for communication. Make time for your family regardless of your work schedule. Family should be your number one priority, even if it means you sit and watch TV, go to a park, or go to an event, making time for your loved ones are just as important as making time for yourself